The Girl and Boy Relationship February 25, 2011

Girls and boys differ from the aspect of gender, but does that separate the two from being friends? Must there be a certain kind of intimate relationship between the two? You be the judge.

Everybody has a different perspective. Some believe that females and males should grow up and slowly become lovers, producing children for them both to take care of. Others, however, believe that females and males have the rights to just be good friends.

Well?

It certainly depends on the readiness you have for a relationship. Do you feel comfortable receiving hugs from the opposite sex? Are you ready to have someone whom you should dedicate yourself to for your entire life? Or, do you feel that just being normal friends, who hang out together, is better for you? Think about it. Are you mature enough to handle being in a romantic relationship?

A lot of the time, teenagers these days are getting themselves entangled in affairs that are far beyond their reach. Take this, for example. You are only thirteen years old. Someone “asks you out,” but you feel afraid to say no, afraid that your friendship with that person will break. If that is the case, you are certainly not ready to face the romantic part of life.

The majority of youngsters nowadays think that they are ready for a relationship that requires romance in it. Is that really necessary? If you are a girl, do you feel that it is necessary to hug and kiss boys all the time in order for you to feel safe and secure? Boys, do you feel that you have to be intimate with a girl so you can please her? Most likely, you are not ready to be at that “stage”.

The stage everyone should go through before doing anything else, is to just be friends. Girls and boys do not necessarily need to be “going out” in order to even look at each other. Once you start “going out,” you not only will find yourself uncomfortable, you will also find yourself unable to reach out to your other friends. You will find yourself centering on your partner only, and that is certainly not a healthy lifestyle.

Know what you are ready for. If you feel uncomfortable “going out” with another person, just be friends. Friends are good too.

 

From afmag.net

Making Friends : The first move

We may feel either excited or distraught at the thought of meeting new people and making new friends, whether it is on the first day of school, or an orientation organized by the school to promote “ice-breaking” activities. Some people may find making the first move easy, while others find it incredibly difficult. When you think about it though, what’s so hard about saying, “Hi” or “Hello”? It’s just one word, yet it can take a lot of effort to muster the courage to say it. Is there any reason for restraining from such a simple act of greeting?

“I feel depressed because I have no friends.”
“Join a club and you can meet new people.”

I have probably come across too many of these sorts of threads to count, and therefore I find it necessary to make a point out of it. It’s easy to tell others to get out of their shells and meet new people, when the person giving the advice may not have experienced the same problem. Try putting a really introverted person on the spot, chances are, you will get nothing out of it. As long as there’s something that’s hindering that person from making the first move, it will continue to stay that way until he/she overcomes it. You may ask, what can be so devastating that can possibly stop one from making friends?

It can be anything – it may be due to a reserved nature, or maybe due to some other factors that make you fear making the first move. For example, it could have been incidents in the past that made you who are you today, or a supposedly best friend of yours backstabbed you which probably made you afraid of having the same thing happen to you again. Or it could be some other reasons. Whatever the reasons it could be, one shouldn’t strip himself/herself of the desire to make new friends. There’s no guessing how it would turn out to be if you don’t try.

It’s also important to note that many of these people may not have realized it themselves, but these traits may also be what stops others from wanting to befriend them. It’s not about discrimination or racism, but rather, how much it takes to make it work. For example, you may find it harder to talk to someone who’s very quiet compared to a person who’s out-going. Moreover, if that person doesn’t talk much, you may often get the impression that he/she is not interested, so why bother wasting time trying to befriend someone like this when you can spend more time with the rest?

Perhaps it’s our nature to do so, but we should also take into account the person’s feelings. Maybe she didn’t mean to push anyone away, or maybe she just couldn’t think of what to say and is trying hard to initiate a conversation. Like the saying goes, “we should learn to give and take in life.” Before walking out on anyone, we should probably learn to be patient with them to show that we’re really keen to be friends with them. That way, they may even find it much easier to talk to you once they have composed themselves.

Likewise, you may be a very reserved person, but you should at least try to make an effort to initiate the first move. It may not turn out how you expected it to, but at least you can applaud yourself for trying. In this world there’s no right or wrong, it’s whether you are willing to try that makes the difference. So before you jump to the conclusion that you can’t do it, you should think about the many millions of people who are just like you. They are trying their best too.

 

Got this off afmag.net

Tagalog translation of Nothing by The Script February 12, 2011

lyricsmode.com has a translate feature and I tried it. It’s not accurate though.

The Script – Nothing lyrics

translated from English to Filipino [Verse 1] Ako ng mas mahusay na off patay Ako ng mas mahusay na off sa isang ayawinin Sabi nila ako ng mas mahusay na off ngayon Pagkatapos ko na kailanman ay sa kanyang Habang sila ay dalhin ako sa aking mga lokal na sa kalye I’m smiling ngunit ako ng namamatay na sinusubukan hindi upang i-drag ang aking mga paa Sabi nila sa isang ilang inumin ay makakatulong sa akin na kalimutan ang kanyang Ngunit pagkatapos ng isa masyadong maraming alam ko na ako ay hindi kailanman Lamang ang maaari nilang makita kung saan ito ay gonna end Ngunit lahat sila tingin ako loko ngunit sa akin ito ay perpekto ng kahulugan [Chorus] At ang aking mga mates ay ang lahat doon trying sa kalmado ako pababa ‘Sanhi ako ng sigaw ng iyong pangalan sa buong bayan ako pagmumura kung pumunta ako ngayon doon ko maaaring baguhin ang iyong isip turn ito ang lahat sa paligid alam ko na ako lasing pero kailangan ko sabihin ang mga salita, At makikita siya makinig oras na ito kahit na sila ay slurred, Dialed kanyang numero at ipahayag sa kaniya, ako pa rin ng umibig sa lahat ng kanyang ngunit ang lahat ng narinig ko ay wala (wala, wala …) [Verse 2] Kaya madapa ako doon, kasama ang mga railings at ang mga bakod alam ko ako sa kanyang mukha sa mukha, na makikita siya dumating sa kanyang sarili Bawat hakbang na lasing at path leads sa akin sa kanyang mga pintuan Kung siya nakikita kung magkano nasasaktan ako Makikita Siya kumuha ako bumalik para sa sigurado [Chorus] At ang aking mga mates ay ang lahat doon trying sa kalmado ako pababa ‘Sanhi ako ng sigaw ng iyong pangalan sa buong bayan ako pagmumura kung pumunta ako ngayon doon ko maaaring baguhin ang iyong isip turn ito ang lahat sa paligid alam ko na ako lasing pero kailangan ko sabihin ang mga salita, At makikita siya makinig oras na ito kahit na sila ay slurred, Dialed kanyang numero at ipahayag sa kaniya, ako pa rin ng umibig sa lahat ng kanyang ngunit ang lahat ng narinig ko ay wala (wala, wala …) Siya ay sinabi wala (walang wala) Oh I wanted salita ngunit lahat ay narinig ko ay wala Oh ako got wala Walang anuman Ako got wala Walang anuman Oh I wanted salita ngunit lahat ay narinig ko ay wala [Verse 3] Oh kung minsan ang pagibig ay nakalalasing Oh ikaw ay bumababa ang iyong mga kamay ay nanginginig Kapag ikaw mapagtanto walang isa naghihintay Ako ng mas mahusay na off patay Ako ng mas mahusay na off sa isang ayawinin Sabi nila ako ng mas mahusay na off ngayon Kaysa sa ako kailanman ay sa kanyang [Chorus] At ang aking mga mates ay ang lahat doon trying sa kalmado ako pababa ‘Sanhi ako ng sigaw ng iyong pangalan sa buong bayan ako pagmumura kung pumunta ako ngayon doon ko maaaring baguhin ang iyong isip turn ito ang lahat sa paligid alam ko na ako lasing pero kailangan ko sabihin ang mga salita, At makikita siya makinig oras na ito kahit na sila ay slurred, Dialed kanyang numero at ipahayag sa kaniya, ako pa rin ng umibig sa lahat ng kanyang ngunit ang lahat ng narinig ko ay wala (wala, wala …) Siya ay sinabi walang (Wala, wala …) Oh I wanted salita ngunit lahat ay narinig ko ay wala Oh ako got wala (Wala, wala …) Ako got wala (Wala, wala …) Oh I wanted salita ngunit lahat ay narinig ko ay wala Oh ako got wala (Wala, wala …) Ako got wala, ako got wala

– Gave you a good laugh, didn’t it? 🙂

They translated it word for word. So don’t rely on this:D

Dear Jacob February 5, 2011

Dear Jacob*code name*,
I really wish I could send you this letter but there’s so many reasons why I can’t..
I never got the chance to tell you how I really feel about you. You’re the only one who made me feel sad like this. And now that we’re not talking to each other anymore, I always find myself thinking about you. You’ve been in my dreams for the past 3 weeks.
I miss your laugh, your smile, your little gestures, your corny jokes and cheesy lines. I miss every little bit about you.
You’re very different from all the other guys. We’re so different in a lot of ways but alike in thousands. You never actually met my standards but that’s what makes me like you more. I can just be myself around you, not caring whether you’d hate the real me or not. You know me better than I know myself. You understand every little part of me and not once have you judged me. You’re the sweetest guy I’ve ever known but I took you for granted. I’ve been thinking about you alot lately. Like alot. And I wonder if you think of me too. But I know that that’s an unlikely possibility after what I did.. I know I can’t change the past but there’s something that I ought to tell you… Everytime I feel down and sad, I just remember all the the things you said and the sadness seems to shun away. And I wanna thank you for that. I know it won’t matter now but I’ve liked you ever since you lent me your jacket. I know it may sound shallow and people won’t understand. Anyway, before I erase this letter I wanna tell you that if you ever feel down or you just wanna talk about anything. Anything at all. I’ll be here for you. Just like you’ve been there for me.

 

– I wrote this awhile back. April 13, 2010 to be exact. I needed to let it out so I’m posting it.

– Jan 😐

My Sincere Sorry February 1, 2011

These past few month I’ve taken for granted some of my true friends. I’ve been selfish and self-centered. I was just thinking about my feeling and I’ve hurt the people who loves me the most. I keep thinking that they don’t want me and all the ’emo’ stuffs. I realize now that I am wrong. I am so sorry and I wanna be a better friend.

I know change doesn’t happen overnight so please don’t expect a sudden change, but I am really willing to change for the better. I know that God is there to help me and he will send people to help me too. He just did actually:)

I told a friend that I feel like my true friends aren’t so true, and he told me the exact thing I needed to hear. He said, “Just be good. then people will be drawn to you. Stop looking for true friends, instead improve yourself so that when the time comes you can be someone’s true friend.”

After hearing that, tears just came rushing down. I prayed that God will help me, and I know that he will.

To my best friend, I am sorry. I know I’ve changed and I don’t wanna lose you. I love you and I hope we can work things out.

– J.